ARYA SAMAJ MARRIAGE

Love marriages are the most trending and fashionable marriages in today's society. Couples today are much eager to enter into the final bond of marriage with whom they love and want to spend their rest of the life with each other. Arya Samaj Mandir undertakes love marriages much to the pleasure of couples and their families.
Union of two souls is Love. A love marriage is a union of two individuals based upon mutual love, affection, commitment and attraction. Love is a dream and marriage is just an extension of this dream to reality. When both dream and reality comes together, it is the best thing that can happen to a person. Love is the subtle emotional wave within us, which is perennial in this world of death and passing away. The feeling of love cannot be explained in words. - We start feeling good about things, which we earlier overlooked. The company of the person we love can make the most mundane chores seem like an exciting job. Therefore, love can be best defined, as a feeling of bliss and ecstasy.
Marriage has always been a propitious institution in India but people have always condemned love marriages. Though it sounds quite absurd in the land, which is known for its popular love stories, the truth remains harsh. In the earlier times, marriages were conducted solely according to the whims and fancies of the parents. Girls did not enjoy any freedom and were forced to marry the one to whom her parents chose for her.
With time, Indian society has undergone tremendous changes. The social fabric of the society has become more flexible and girls are treated equal to boys. As a result, interaction between the opposite sexes increased considerably. Following this, the age old, chained feelings were let loose and more and more couples were swept away by the tide of love. This has contributed to the increased percentage of love marriages in the country. Even our Indian Govt. has given no objection if the persons are residing in living relation.

Nevertheless, one should never forget that love is one of the greatest human emotions and if two people wish to spend their lives together, out of love for each other, there can be nothing prosperous than that. Love marriages are carried out with the same vigor and joy. For convenience, it should be known that the only difference in a love marriage is that both the girl and the boy know each other and are deemed to be in love as well. The love-marriage in India goes beyond the age-old love stories portrayed in the black-and-white Bollywood movies. Some of the earliest scriptures (Rig Veda), books (KamaSutra) and stories prove the fact that the love-marriage has never been a foreign concept for India.

However, these love flings are have been discouraged in the Indian society due to many reasons :

* Very protective style of parenting- especially for girls,
* Social stigma against pre-marital relations
* Love affair are always looked down by the elders.
* Cast restrictions and wedding rules do not go well with love marriages

Love is a wonderful feeling and the couples always wish to experience the marriage, which calls for understanding and daily effort. We constantly need to nurture our feelings. It requires mutual respect for each other and time and attention as any other aspect of life. Love marriage can be the best thing if there is endeavor and commitment from the either side.
Indian love marriages have both pros and cons. This kind of marriages gives us enough time to know the person and then decide about the idea to spend the entire life. The couples can understand each other in a better way. However, if the couples start behaving in a way that is unacceptable for each other, it becomes difficult for them to adjust to this. In addition, later on after marriage when they behave the way they are it becomes difficult for us to accept. However, if the love is true, then love marriages nurture love with every passing day. Therefore, if one wants to make the love marriage a successful one, then the marriage should be given some more time and commitment and then one can see it blooming.

Another drawback of love marriage is inability to adjust with the family members. Mostly, love marriage involve coming together of two culturally and socially different families. As such, there are bound to be adjustment issues. However, you should realize that every relation has certain demands and certain needs to be met if it is to thrive and endure. Therefore, if you want to make your love marriage a success, then it would be best to give your nuptial some more time and commitment. Once this is done, rest assured, you will see your marriage blooming!!

Arranged marriages are traditional in Indian society and continue to account for an overwhelming majority of marriages in the Indian subcontinent. Despite the fact that romantic love is "fulsomely celebrated" in both Indian mass media (such as Bollywood) and folklore and the arranged marriage tradition lacks any official legal recognition or support, the institution has proved to be "surprisingly robust" in adapting to changed social circumstances and has defied predictions of decline as India modernized. Arranged marriages are believed to have initially risen to prominence in the Indian subcontinent when the historical Vedic religion gradually gave way to classical Hinduism (the ca. 500 BCE period), substantially displacing other alternatives that were once more prominent. In the urban culture of modern India, the differentiation between arranged and love marriages is increasingly seen as a "false dichotomy" with the emergence of phenomena such as "self-arranged marriages" and free-choice on the part of the prospective spouses.

Arranged marriage system in India is bad in one sense but good in another sense. It is bad when marriage is arranged with such a hatred and prejudice over other religions, castes and races; it is bad when parents over- protect and control their children to the extent of denying every wish, and even every right of their children in choosing their partners. Arranged marriages are wonderful when parents and children love each other sincerely and total freedom is given to children for final consent to marriage; and when arrangements are made for the would-be- spouses to meet and to know each other.

Arranged marriages may raise the rate of marriage too. Women may have some restrictions when choosing their husbands in traditional culture due to personal and social preconceptions of marriage. It is widely recognized that women should choose those men who are older and more intelligent than they are as husbands, while men are encouraged to choose women who are younger and less intelligent than they are as wives. However, the number of intelligent people is definitely less than the number of unintelligent people; thus, intelligent women may have less of a chance to find themselves husbands in romantic love than either less intelligent women or men. Because of the increasing number of highly educated women, more and more women find themselves unable to find husbands.

Inter Caste marriages prevailed in India because of a very rigid caste system. Upper caste people would not have any marriage alliance with lower caste people. Even if there are eligible bachelors available, it was seen as a sin to think of mixing alliances from one caste to another. In fact, though now in cities we do not a very rigid caste system prevailing, it is still seen as a taboo to have married among different castes. Practically looking at it, the bride and the groom end of facing some adjustment problems once they start living together, basic things like language, daily routine habits might create a rift among the couple and ultimately the families. Most of these marriages remain as love marriages even today, where the bride and the groom would decide to get married and would be ready to make adjustment for life. Hence, these marriages are more common in cities rather than villages in India.

Caste systems and racial discriminations act as a bane for progressive India. For years, the different societies of India, especially Hindu society have been divided based on caste system and religion. The problem of caste system was so deep rooted that it took years for the Indians to come out of that idea. Even today also, India is struggling to come out of this social menace. History reveals that efforts have been made by various social reformers and individuals to make India free from the clutches of caste system, untouchability and race discrimination.

People have realized that a successful marriage is not dependent on factors such as same caste and religion. It is on the other hand, built on the aspects of mutual understanding and compatibility. It is how well the two understand each other's need and feel for your partner. It is not necessary that you have to belong to the same community or caste to understand your spouse better. Today, there are ample of examples when two people from very different background and lifestyle come together and spend their entire life happy with each other, thanks to education.

Education has broadened the periphery of thinking and helped people develop analytical powers. It has not only altered their perception about life, but also about social concerns such as marriage and relationship. Inter caste and inter religion marriages serves as a beacon light for social equality. In order to break the perils of caste-system, it has becomes incumbent that there should be inter-caste marriages. Marriage is mostly dependent on true love and feeling and once this is achieved, caste and religion all becomes secondary issues.

Since 21.04.2014 the executive order The Delhi (Compulsory Marriage Registration) order 2014 has been issued wherein registration of marriage became compulsory as per the Supreme Court direction. Marriage solemnized in Arya Samaj mandir or an arranged marriage will have to be registered from the SDM office within a period of 60 days.

Required Documents Under Section 8 Of The Hindu Marriage Act-1955 Are As Follows:-

DOCUMENTS REQUIRED FOR THE SAME DAY MARRIAGE UNDER SECTION 8 OF THE HINDU MARRIAGE ACT-1955 ARE AS UNDER:-

1. Documentary evidence of the date of birth of parties (Matriculation Certificate / Passport / Birth Certificate/ Driving License). Minimum age of both parties is 21 years for male and 18 years for female, at the time of Solemnization of Marriage in the Arya Samaj Mandir.
2. Election Card and Aadhar Card of the boy and girl.
3. Separate affidavits from bride and groom stating the date of birth, marital status at the time of marriage and nationality. (As per the Performa of Affidavit) (Affidavits will be prepared by us)
4. Ten each passport size photographs of both the parties.
5. Affirmation in the affidavit that the parties are not related to each other within the prohibited degree of relationship. Meaning thereby they are not blood-related.
6. Copy of wedding card or temple certificate along with marriage photograph.
7. The copy of divorce decree/order in case of a divorcee and death certificate of spouse in case of widow/widower.
8. In case one of the party is a foreigner, a copy of no objection from the concerned embassy regarding his/her marital status.

Note: Delhi government works on Monday, Wednesday and Friday only.